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First, set the tone and have some fun.
Today we're going to make new rules in our house, and you're going to help me make them. FIrst, how many rules do you think we should have? A hundred rules. 10 rules. a million rules? (My kids thought we should have infinity.) No! We only have 3 rules. Let's make them together.
Next, lead them by giving examples through questions. continue to make it funny. If you have really young siblings, then add facial movements like shaking your head when you say "Yes!" and "Nooooo" since little kids follow body language better than verbal cues.
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I am sure to remind my kids that I know it's hard to always be nice and respect each other,[url=http://woolrichoutletde.albirank.net/][b]Woolrich Arctic Parka[/b][/url], but siblings are best friends for life, so they don't have a choice -- they have to respect each other. They're stuck with each other forever -- so better build the bond early on. My boys are best buds.
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That rule really nips a lot of sibling issues, and saves a lot of money. Then there's the final rule.
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I want my kids to be able to solve problems and think for themselves. So if I always run around telling them what to do (Brush your teeth! Put on your shoes! Hurry up!) then that's not helping them become independent thinkers. It's making them rely on me like a crutch. So turn off your drill sargent commands, and flip it around to them.
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