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My first body language book was "Body Language" by Julius Fast which I read when I was an undergraduate in the 1960's.
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But I also have been a student of angry faces and attitudes since I was a little boy living in a house with two adult alcoholics.
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If you watch closely, you can see emotions play across the face of an individual and those emotions can be very helpful in guiding the therapeutic conversation.
I think that the attachment work of Allen Schore,Ph.D., and the work of Paul Ekman,Ph.D. on facial expressons are particularly powerful in this regard.
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I have used Ekman's work in my domestic violence and anger management classes to indicate that an emotional response of hurt to an expression of contempt, for example, which Ekman says is a universal for human communication, not influenced by cultural considerations, can occur in 1/25th of a second, perhaps 2 and 1/2 times as fast as I can blink my eyes.
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If that action is a violent action, lives can change in a very short period of time, and we call those kinds of crimes names like road rage.
Ekman's body language books are used by the CIA and FBI to direct conversations, or determine if someone is lying.
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I like to ask questions about the emotions I am seeing, because clients are not always aware of the subtle expressions of feelings
Those subtle responses can guide us to the most troubling memory or thought or fear, and once that thought or feeling or memory is uncovered, we can begin to use any number of therapeutic tools to change it.
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Allen Schore's work on attachment takes us all the way back to a newborn's efforts to communicate and the call and answer kind of communication that happens between care taking parents and the child.
Just like adult interactions though, those patterns are not perfectly attuned and require frequent adjustments of communication by both parties.
Most body language books do not speak to the speed of body language and body language interpretation, which is a key aspect of effective communication.
Not sure if you are fast enough to notice those 1/25th second expressions?
Well, I think the good news is that most of us in most communications do quite well at sustaining the cultural norms and facilitating human interactions. For example, I am particularly fascinated by adult males and how we negotiate doors and hall ways when we are on task, or in a hurry.
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Michael S. Logan is a brain fitness expert, a counselor, a student of Chi Gong, and licensed one on one HeartMath provider. I enjoy the spiritual, the mythological, and psychological, and I am a late life father to Shane, 10, and Hannah Marie, 4, whose brains are so amazing.